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5 Reasons Why....  

EnigmaInitiative 53F
3114 posts
12/5/2021 4:59 pm
5 Reasons Why....

I Don't Want

Yes, people, I'm about make fun of my non existent drive...

Continued in first comment avoid grammar gremlins

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EnigmaInitiative 53F
5750 posts
12/5/2021 5:00 pm


Finding partners is hard. Look, I'm a pansexual consensually non monogamous goddess , you'd think it'd be simple for me to find a compatible sex partner. But, nah, it's like pulling teeth out here. Ya'll remember way back...think back to before the internet. Wanna know how I got laid? I went to a fucking bar, picked out some guy, and seduced the fuck out of him.

I've gone to a bar, recently. Oh yes, even since the pandemic. Gasp. Get your panties out your ass, I was picking up a to go order. Something happened, everyone there got younger. Not sure when that happened, probably during the pandemic, huh? Shit, I missed everything.

Look, it's not some weird ageist thing, I'm just plain not attracted to the youngsters. Sorry, not sorry...I think. I don't know. They certainly don't get my engine roaring like some of the gray foxes I've seen on these blogs. guys don't make me want to have sex, but you sure make me wanna flick the bean. Ya know what I'm saying over here?


Sex is hard, masturbating is easy. Look, I don't even have to brush my hair to seduce myself; legs all unshaven; pull down those flannel pj pants; and start going to town like in the middle of the day. No planning, no makeup, no nada...just me and whatever implement I'd like at that moment. Mood strikes in the shower, shit...that's what the shower massager is for. Simple, easy, perfection.


Sex is messy. There's all those fluids and stuff. I can control my squirting pretty well when masturbating, but when I'm fucking. Shiiiiiiit, you all have no idea how much laundry there is when I'm done.


Sex is work. Getting into all those positions, thrusting hips, and slamming against each other. That kind of stuff wears ya out, and makes me hungry. Then, I've got to cook and clean up the mess after cooking. Sheesh, if I just masturbate, I don't have all that work to do.


Just to get serious for the last is dangerous. No matter how you put it, no matter how safe you try to be, there's still a chance that you're going to get something that you can't get rid of. I'm sorry to anyone who believes they can be one hundred percent safe, you're wrong.

And, while I am writing this ridiculous missive, make no mistake, I am sex positive. I make no judgment of those with STI, it doesn't mean, to me, anything other than you have whatever it is you have. That said, the United States healthcare system leaves much to be desired, and affording the cost of any STI is a variable to be looked at.

That's not to mention the danger you take when you're at your most vulnerable by inviting a person to be with you in an intimate way. Sexual vio lence is real and it happens to all genders.

So, dear readers, do you have reasons why you want/don't want to have sex?

Doesn't have to be five, just curious.

Happy Sunday

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lok4fun500 111M  
51600 posts
12/5/2021 6:57 pm

...I would love to cum more than once a year!!

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EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 6:55 am:
I'm guessing masturbation is not your thing...

slobberpuss1 73M
120 posts
12/5/2021 7:47 pm

All of your reasons are good points; However, personally I prefer the skin to skin intimacy with someone I care about. Makes sex much better and satisfying for me.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 6:56 am:
Oh I hear you, I'm just making a little fun because my sex drive dwindled post heart attack.

redrockrascal 63M
23518 posts
12/5/2021 8:06 pm

do you have reasons why you want/don't want to have sex?

sex is fun

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 6:57 am:
Sex IS fun, but then we're back to point one.

Hey it rhymes...

OldStandardDudeX 69M  
124 posts
12/5/2021 8:21 pm

Ah, I do want to have know, with a partner.....but sometimes the other stuff just gets in the way.....usually I figure it's just part of the deal, but sometimes, I think of the offsets, the good and the bad, and weigh the benefits.....

I got my masturbation routines down, and the end result is most enjoyable....not quite the ideal, but at this point in my existence, a comfortable pursuit.....

Interesting post......

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 6:59 am:
Oh I'm just making a little fun of my non existent sex drive post heart attack.

Thanks for stopping by and responding

CrazySexyLady4U 59F
37 posts
12/5/2021 8:35 pm

If I want to come, my Magic Wand is my friend. But, there's nothing like a hot young horny stud who wants me to get me going. And if he's cute, has long hair, and I want him so bad, all that anticipation is the best foreplay. I love the excitement and the feeling of being hot and desired. His excitement is the fuel to my fire.

I've had the laundry issue as well. First of all, it's worth it. But secondly, I get those pads that will soak up most of it and save you the laundry and/or the wood floor.

I also don't want to catch anything, curable or not. So far, I've avoided the dread diseases, partly because I'm careful (protection is a must), and partly because I prefer partners that also believe in using protection.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:01 am:
You know, I'm one of those weirdos who doesn't like vibration on her clit. I find it numbs me, so strange. But, good for you. I'm glad you're having a good time.

This is just a little jest because my sex drive took a nose dive post heart attack, I'm assuming it will come back soon.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

pacnwlover42 52M
9743 posts
12/5/2021 9:45 pm

I think the best thing to do during sex is to take your time and not wear yourself out too quickly. I think some people try to do it like the pornstars do it. I agree with you about masturbation, much easier to do. I do get a workout when I masturbate in the shower. In one of my shower videos, I stroked my lathered up cock for 8 minutes straight and was really vocal in it as well and the cumshot was amazing. A lot of people enjoyed watching me do all that. It is even more exciting to cum outdoors. By the way, you asked if I got cold being naked outdoors, I block it out of my mind and just enjoy the naughty rush of doing something that is risky, but feels so good. Nice to see you blogging again. I missed you!

Funny women are incredibly sexy!

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:02 am:
I mean, when I HAD a sex drive..I liked porn star sex the most. Unfortunately, post heart attack, I've lost it. If you find it, can you send it back to me in Florida? I'd be happy to pay the postage.

PonyGirl1965 56F
21423 posts
12/5/2021 10:13 pm

Sex would be nicer if men always wore condoms so I would drip spooge for hours. Like you said, masturbation is neater.
I would love to have a sybian to back up the shower massager

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:03 am:
I mean, right? The slobs.

As I was saying to someone else above, me no likey the vibration on my clit. It numbs me, so no sybian for me. But, that shower massage and I have been having a long term affair.

author51 59F  
129044 posts
12/5/2021 11:07 pm

I want to have sex but COVID got in the way first, now the Omicron and work. No time at all for it right now my friend. I did meet someone from this site on Sat, but it was a first meet and I never have sex on one..Our drives seem to Cum and Go in life and especially when we have a lot going on my friend.xoxo

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:04 am:
Covid, the ultimate cock blocker.

Oh, I have every hope that mine will return, my friend.

Happy Monday

MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2371 posts
12/5/2021 11:57 pm

That fine line between want and need divides me. Do I want it? Sure. What makes doesn't want sex? Do I need it? Nope. Not at all.

For those of you out there who can't live without sex, more power to you all! But I've never been the sort to go and try to get laid with a stranger or even with someone I know. I was socially distancing decades before it became a thing. I also had this very notion that I couldn't have sex without feeling something for my partner.
When I met my ex-wife, it was great to feel in love and have someone respond enthusiastically to everything I did with them. But health issues on both sides eventually killed the sex.
Don't get me wrong. I still get horny but have found ways to sate that urge.
All of the reasons you give pretty much line up with me: lack of prospects, lack of initiative, safety concerns, and also meds sometimes putting the kibosh on the ole libido.

But....there have been a few bloggers and chatters on here who do tickle me in the right spots. I'm exceedingly grateful to them for getting my spark back up. I hope you find a solution because we all need that glorious release now and again

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:06 am:
I've gone through phases in my life where sex with strangers was something I craved. That said, it's been more than a decade since the last time I craved it.

This really was just a little jest because I lost my interest in sex post heart attack.

I appreciate you stopping by and responding

SilverFoxMark66 67M  
240 posts
12/6/2021 2:41 am

Great post Ms Terence McKenna & good debate; personally I'm not giving up on my sex life just yet or finding sensual/ sexual partner(s) on this site, (& a couple of other more local ones) despite all the the potential challenges you list, (another alternative is thick towels on the bed btw), & some of my own too, (niggling old injury aches) & if I ever fail to perform I'd still be very happy to give those sensual head to toe sensual massages with happy endings & lots of oral 69 etc, thanks for sharing & big warm horny hugs for your solo efforts, Mark x

mc_justmc 61M  
6927 posts
12/6/2021 4:22 am

I don't feel like sharing my post orgasm nachos...

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:10 am:
That's what I'm talking about

You ~ Me~Sympatico

gdfriends6777 37M

12/6/2021 5:08 am

Great post. Love reading about what you enjoy!

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:11 am:

WyoCowboy7751 68M
2469 posts
12/6/2021 6:46 am

Finding partners is hard. AMEN to that !!!!
Sex is hard, masturbating is easy. Again AMEN !!!! 2 to 4 times a week is get mighty TIRING !
Sex is messy. a beach or bath towel helps with that !!
Sex is work. I'm retired soooo at my age it makes it a pleasure !!!!
Sex is dangerous. Especially if Hubby or Boyfriend happen to walk in !!! 🤠

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 7:15 am:
I LOVE your profile pic. If you could see me over here giggling like a little it! Thank you for that, really.

Sex is dangerous. Especially if Hubby or Boyfriend happen to walk in !!! 🤠

That's why I prefer consensual non monogamy, my friend.

Thanks for stopping by and responding!

EnigmaInitiative 53F
5750 posts
12/6/2021 7:09 am

    Quoting SilverFoxMark66:
    Great post Ms Terence McKenna & good debate; personally I'm not giving up on my sex life just yet or finding sensual/ sexual partner(s) on this site, (& a couple of other more local ones) despite all the the potential challenges you list, (another alternative is thick towels on the bed btw), & some of my own too, (niggling old injury aches) & if I ever fail to perform I'd still be very happy to give those sensual head to toe sensual massages with happy endings & lots of oral 69 etc, thanks for sharing & big warm horny hugs for your solo efforts, Mark x
Thank you

Sooooo, Terence McKenna was an American Ethnobotanist who studied psychedelics, the quote above the name is his.

This was a little jest because I lost my libido post heart attack, I am hoping it comes back.

Thanks for stopping by and responding

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pal334 67M  
45535 posts
12/6/2021 7:22 am

Just hoping that this virus thing gets settled, I would love normal life again

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EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 8:20 am:
It would be nice, but I have a very jaded opinion about our ability to rid the world of covid.

spunkycumfun 61M/66F  
40528 posts
12/6/2021 8:30 am

I want sex because it's an enjoybale primeval urge.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 9:06 am:
I remember the days when I felt that way, I do hope to get my sex drive back soon.

Thanks for coming by

lok4fun500 111M  
51600 posts
12/6/2021 9:50 am

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 9:55 am:
I'm guessing masturbation is not your thing...


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EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 10:16 am:
I'm confused, you said in your first response that you wanted to cum more than once a year. So, I thought that meant you only had sex once a year. I dunno what I'm talking about...

Leave me on the naughty list, Santa, I deserve it.

Paulxx001 64M  
22484 posts
12/6/2021 10:40 am

Hey... how dja get into my head? 🤔
Kool trick. 😮😎❗❗

I feel EXACTLY like that, some days. But I wonder what it would be like to have a vagina... and infinite orgasm. 🤔🤗

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 2:57 pm:
I dunno, it must happen in my sleep or something, I'm sure not conscious of my esp.

Eh, infinite isn't as good as you think, that shit wears me out.

aman4u1962a 59M
1971 posts
12/6/2021 10:54 am

Sorry, I'm too far away to help you with that.

I understand that, but there can be a feeling of excitement and anticipation when you're showering and primping up to meet a lover.

I have no problem cleaning up and doing laundry. It doesn't all have to fall on you sweetie.

I'm a great cook and would happily cook us a nice meal after a romp. It's also nice to fall asleep with a lover in your arms after the strenuous workout.

I'm clean, and I know how to treat a lady with respect.

Now, if we could only fix item one.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 2:58 pm:
It always seems to come back to one....

Nice to see you and thanks for coming by and giving me a smile.

Logan0867 54M  
244 posts
12/6/2021 1:13 pm

LOL too funny. Thanks for the laugh.

Although to point 2 its hardly hard...I'd take you no makeup, unshaved legs and unbrushed hair any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 2:59 pm:
Thanks, I'm glad you understood the humor, seems most didn't. But, c'est le vie...ya know?

You're special, I could be recovering from surgery and you'd still want to fuck me.

Hey...that happened didn't it?

Our problem boils down to Covid at this point.

flannel_light 59F  
4490 posts
12/6/2021 3:13 pm

Being Bi, I have not meet any women from this site. I tend to like around our age
I am right there with you on #2 sister
You have made some good points here.
I get sex from my lover once a month but I would like to cum more than once when we are together but when the gf is at home waiting it is short and sweet. Being Bi I have not meet any women on this site.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.

EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/6/2021 3:22 pm:
A very long time ago, I met some women from this site. Sadly, they mostly wanted threesomes with their husbands. But, there was one or two, where we clicked.

I have a long distance lover, someone who lives in Michigan, who I haven't seen since before the pandemic hit. He knows about my lack of sex drive, in fact he's the guy who responded right above you. We've been seeing each other since 08.

I'm hoping it will come back.

Here's hoping you can find someone to satiate your wants and needs.

allgud69xxx 48M
498 posts
12/6/2021 5:39 pm

Regarding your first point - um, yes, everyone got younger. That is one way to look at it. . The joys of this bit about time, what with the flying-by, and all? Somehow, the number of younger people always seems to keep growing, and I don’t understand it, either.

I was never much for the random-hookup thing. The last woman I was with asked if I ever just asked for a blowjob after finding out I hadn’t been with anyone for a few years. But, that’s just not the way I see the world. Count it among my many (many) other failings? To me, being with someone comes with both possible pluses and minuses, so I lean towards finding someone for more than one-fun-and-done. But, that obviously doesn’t make things simpler. Even in “the good ol’ days,” before the, as you put it, cock-blocker of “the virus” (“boooooo … you suck!” would probably be what the virus would hear, from all of us, if it was a sports team).

Hmmm, so are you saying sex is like an aerobic workout? Practice! I suspect more practice is what will make things better. Oh, hell, that means we’re back to the question of finding someone to practice with. If you tried a adopting a dom persona, you could at least make your minion(s) do the cleaning up and cooking? Hmmm, those type of people may be even more difficult to find.

So long as you haven’t resorted to humping table legs in public, I guess you’re in a good-enough situation? Not “great”, or “ideal”, but good enough … ? Hopefully the said situation improves in the not-so-distant future. Oh, and your situation, too. If some people can become born-again virgins, is there a way to “undo” a heart attack? You might want to look into that one …

-- allgud69xxx

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EnigmaInitiative replies on 12/7/2021 6:25 am:
Your response was a delight to read, I appreciate the humor interspersed throughout.

I wish I could undo a heart attack, I really do. It'd be nice.

I suspect I just need more time to heal.

Thanks for stopping by and responding, I appreciate the smile your writing gave me.

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