Hi my wife and I have been in the lifestyle for nearly 15yrs. We know what we are looking for. We have learned over the years that we enjoy hanging around with other like minded people, it makes it so much easier to be able to be yourself. We have a Harley and love to ride so to find people that ride as well is a big plus, dont care what you ride, its about the adventure. We like to push the boundaries a little when it comes to PDA. Seeing what we can get away with is a huge turn on. My wife likes to wear a lot of sheer clothing that definitely will get people's attention. We like to go on trips, I would have to say the coast is one of our favorite places to go, and Vegas and amusement parks. We dont expect for all of our friends to be hookups, and actually prefer it that way. Friends first, we are looking for long term.