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purplestingrae 41 / F
"Lovers wanted, apply within"
Detroit, Michigan, United States
 
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purplestingrae 41/F
Detroit, Michigan
Introduction
I'm a fat, poly 29-year-old social science graduate student in Detroit. I'm looking for friends with benefits (emphasis on the friends bit) and lovers. I am primarily interested in meeting men and couples of any orientation/gender combination. My main romantic orientation is lesbian and I am just out of a long-term relationship with a woman and skeptical about my ability to have one-on-one casual sex with women, since that's something I've almost never done. I'm generally a sub with men and dominant with women. I would really like to meet a man/woman couple who would like to take turns pleasing one another. I like a moderate amount of pain and I'd like to work up to more. I would like to meet sexually dominant men who also respect women as their friends and lovers and respect their boundaries. Yes, I am a feminist. If that makes you cringe we probably aren't going to get along. I'm also sex-positive and very careful about safer sex with all my partners. I expect complete honesty from my partners and they can expect the same from me. I really like to please my partners (it's the best!) but I might be giving to a fault. I expect reciprocity and I can't fully enjoy myself unless my partner really enjoys pleasing me and communicates it unequivocally. You can, of course, expect the same from me. Please send me a message if you find your interest piqued!

My Ideal Person Right now, I think the idea situation for me would be to have about three non-monogamous boyfriends whose company I enjoy, who I can laugh with, watch movies with, snuggle with, and have tons of kinky sex with, hopefully every weekend. I have found a few nice people to play with. (I'm a extremely lucky girl.) So I'm not all that interested in finding additional partners for vanilla sex. What I'm lacking is the kind of domination that I crave so badly. I would really like to find a top who I can be friends with and who I can communicate with. This feels like an artificial distinction but I don't want to live my life with a particular partner as his slave-I want that to be a game we play only some of the time and I want to feel like we are both free to negotiate the terms. I would like to push my boundaries but I can't do that if I don't feel safe (or safe enough. There's something to be said for feeling just the right amount of scared). For the top who can give me that sense that I am being heard, I would be very eager to please and grateful for the opportunity to test my boundaries.
I like men who are big, fat, or both and who have big, dominate personalities in the bedroom (or wherever else they've got me in a compromised position . Penis size isn't particularly important to me because penetrative sex isn't my favorite thing. I much prefer hands. I also love giving blowjobs and handjobs because I love the power of being able to give pleasure.
I'm okay with just having casual sex and interested in it if the sex is good enough but I'd really like to have the security of knowing that my partners like me, care about me, and would at least consider calling just to chat or bringing me soup if I were sick. I tend to give too much to people who aren't willing to reciprocate and so I'm learning to expect more.
I am interested in meeting people who are partnered/married but only if your partner/spouse is okay with it (i.e. you're poly or otherwise have an arrangement). I will ask to speak to your partner if I'm in doubt.
I don't see where I can select an age-range for potential matches but I'm generally looking for people between 25 and 45.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Fisting, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I have cybersex quite often.

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Information
  • 41 / female
  • Detroit, Michigan, United States
Sexual Orientation:
Bi-sexual
Looking For:  Men, Women, Couples (man/woman), Groups, Couples (2 women), Couples (2 men) or Trans
Birthdate: May 20, 1982
Marital Status: Single
Height: 5 ft 4 in / 162-165 cm
Body Type: BBW
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drinking: I'm a light/social drinker
Drugs: I don't use drugs
Education: Master's degree
Race: Caucasian
Bra Size: 42 / 95 Above DD / E
Speaks: English
Hair Color: Red/Auburn
Hair Length: Long
Eye Color: Green
Glasses or Contacts: Contacts